The Rugeley Academies have a ZERO tolerance approach to bullying of any kind.
Bullying can happen to anyone at any age. Being bullied at school, home or online might involve:
- being called names
- being put down or humiliated
- being teased
- being pushed or pulled about
- having money and other possessions taken or messed about with
- having rumours spread about you
- being ignored and left out
- being hit, kicked or physically hurt
Nobody has the right to hurt you or make you feel bad. If you are being bullied you don’t have to deal with it alone. We are here to help you.
“I was a victim of bullying back in school. My advice is to always tell someone straight away and ask for help. Keeping it to yourself will only be more damaging in the long run.” Liam Payne, One Direction
Bullying can leave you feeling anxious, depressed, lonely, worthless and scared – but it doesn’t have to be like this. You are not alone. Talk to the Student Development Team via the reporting page, they will be able to help you.
Experiencing bullying can knock anybody’s confidence. A single insult can stay with you for a long time. Sometimes you may even start believing that the insults are true – even though they aren’t. Nobody deserves to be bullied and it isn’t your fault that it is happening. It can happen to anybody. You should try to build your confidence as soon as possible. Here are some tips:
Talk about what’s going on. It’s really healthy to get bad feelings off your chest. One of the best ways to do this is by talking about what’s on your mind. Talking also helps you see your situation from a different perspective. You could talk to a close friend or an adult you trust.
Give Up the Guilt. You might think you’ve done something wrong to deserve bullying – but this isn’t true. People who bully often do it because:
– they are jealous
– they want to feel powerful
– they are trying to hide something negative in their own lives (like feeling bad about how they look or not having a happy home life)
Use Anger Positively. If someone’s bullying you online, it’s completely normal to experience anger. Being angry is okay. Anger can stop you feeling defeated. Remember that anger isn’t the same as aggression. Being angry doesn’t mean posting an abusive message to the other person. Anger can become a problem if it makes you want to hurt someone, break something or hurt yourself.
Try New Things. Trying something new is one of the best ways to rebuild your confidence if you’re going through bullying. It could be anything – even little things, like eating lunch in a different place or putting your hand up in a lesson.
Let Go of the nastiness. It’s not always easy to let go of the blame. Try thinking of the other person’s (or people’s) negativity as a hot potato. If they dump their nastiness on you, make sure you don’t hold onto it. You could do this by writing down your thoughts, doing some drawing or going outside to do some exercise or go for a walk. It’s all about finding a way to make sure the bad feelings don’t weigh you down.
Difference is Amazing. Being different is okay. Someone might be making you feel bad by sending you messages about being different – but difference is amazing. What if there was only on colour in the world? Or one sport? Or one type of music? Life would be very boring. So don’t forget that our differences are important – they are what make you who you are.
Take control of the blame. If someone is posting abusive things about you online, it’s easy to blame that person for making you angry. But instead of thinking “You made me angry,” try thinking “I let you make me angry.” It’s a small difference, but it’s all about making you feel in control of the situation and how you feel about it. It might not mean you can stop feeling upset straight away, but knowing that you have control over how you react to bullying can help you build up your defences. But remember – bullying isn’t your fault.
Control when you think about bullying. It’s important not to let bullying get to you all day every day. Try writing down your worries and keeping them in a box. You can then have a set amount of time every day or every week when you take them out and think about them. Make a deal with yourself to keep your worrying to this time only – the rest of the time try to enjoy being yourself. If you are the subject of online bullying you could also go on a ‘cyber-holiday’ where you don’t go on any social networks for a set amount of time. It might be a few days or it could be a week – it’s up to you. You could tell everyone that you won’t be going online for a while. Or, if you prefer, you don’t have to announce it – you can just take a break for a while. It might be difficult, but it could help break the cycle of bullying until you feel confident enough to go back on.